I feel your frustration- and, in fact, have just written a short piece about needing an answer — a diagnosis- closure in order to move forward — albeit from a different perspective.

The short answer is that we cannot change other people — we can only change ourselves. Living authentically — simply and kindly will do two things:

Enable individuals to live a good life, well.

Lead by example to create meaningful communities that together could enact real change.

In other words — stop waiting for the answer from someone else. Everyone else is doing that!

You write well — step up and lead with your pen.

There are worse ways to make a difference.